Interview with Dr. Sangeeta Pattanaik | Counselling Psychologist | Couple Compatibility Coach | Author | Speaker | Mental Health Practitioner on Practo | Founder of ReLive Because YOU Matter
At BrilliantRead Media, our aim is to bring to our community some of the finest stories from the startup ecosystem. As part of this endeavour, we invited a passionate women entrepreneur – Dr. Sangeeta Pattanaik for an exclusive interview with us. She is an Entrepreneur, Leader, Coach, Psychologist, Author, Mentor and Change Enabler. Sangeeta is the Founder of ReLive Because YOU Matter. Let’s learn more about her inspiring journey, her background and her advice for our growing community.
Excerpts from our exclusive interview with Sangeeta:
We are aware of your contribution to the ecosystem, talk us through your background and your journey, please;
I’m the Founder & CEO of ReLive Because You Matter and a Registered Practitioner on Practo.
I am on a Mission to Realign the Marriage system by helping Married Couples Build COMPATIBILITY + HARMONY in their Relationships and ReLive a Fulfilling Life by using my Couple Compatibility Model.
An Author, An Eminent Speaker and a Leader in Toastmasters International. A recipient of many awards in the field of Public Speaking, Counselling and Coaching.
An Expert in CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique). Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy (REBT), TA (Transactional Analysis) & NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming Language)
I have Transformed more than 5000+ Lives and Nurturing a community of more than 2000 Members. My Couple Compatibility Model has helped 1000’s of Married Couples Overcome Varied Relationship Challenges and Thrive In their personal and professional Life.”
A little bit about My Journey:-
I am proud to be a KVian till standard 12th and if you are a KVian too You can Resonate with my feelings of the joy of going to different regions, states, districts and remember those competitions among the 4 houses. (Feeling nostalgic;).
Further pursued B. Tech in Computer Science from the prestigious Biju Patnaik University of Technology. And got selected on campus in a fortune 100 Company -Honeywell Technology Solutions in my 7th semester and got my First Financial Independence while I was still a student.
To add to my Experience & Expertise – completed my MBA in Total Quality Management and got promoted to a Senior Consultant.
Being an Ambitious Individual I kept on Growing and Have served Companies like Cognizant, Tech Mahindra, General Electric and many more and got into leadership positions.”
After Gaining Substantial Knowledge and experience as an IT Professional in Quality Assurance and Control Domain and helping companies achieve CMMI, ISO Certification, I went on to explore my calling in Counselling and Coaching and Pursued my M.S. in Counselling and Psychology and Applied for International Certifications from esteemed Organizations and Top Leaders and Trainers. This is where I have reached Today – the Leading Counseling Psychologist & Couple Compatibility Coach in India, who helps Individuals & Couples Foster Mental Strength & Emotional Balance to Live a Fulfilling life.
What made you passionate about ‘Coaching’?
I am blessed to be a daughter of a CIB Officer; who believed in Discipline, Dedication and Commitment. These were my 3 pillars since I was a child and I would put my heart and soul to achieve everything I have dreamt and desired for.
I am a Self-driven & passionate Child among 3 of us siblings since the beginning who would never settle for something lesser than what she always aspired for.
I have been always aspiring to be one of those achievers and helping people in the best possible ways by delivering high performance throughout all walks of my life.
That’s when came a Turning point in my life where I could realize my passion for mental health and life skills and my strong inclination towards Reinventing and Redefining the best version of myself. So I decided to take the risk of quitting my 9 to 5 Secured, stable Job and become a student again and this time all by choice.”
Equipped with a plethora of Qualifications in Counselling, Psychotherapy, Life Coaching, Neuro-Linguistic Programming Language, Hypnosis. Human Behaviours, Emotional Intelligence & Management I got my true Purpose of Life to heal as many Individuals and Save as many marriages and help them to Relive a life by choice and not just by chance.
‘ReLive Because YOU Matter’ is such a unique name; talk us through more about it, please. Our audience would also love to know what kind of problem you are solving?
I strongly believe in the highest potential of every living being.
In this world, Everything Matters, Name, Money, Fame, Love, Relations But above all what matters the most in your Life is ” YOU”. “I and You DO MATTER in this world. I personally got this strong realization to make a Choice to ReLive my way because I do matter in this world independent of the roles and relationships I play while I had completely lost myself, my true identity and in the journey was struggling to gain it all back.
In my personal and Professional Journey though I was trying my best to be happy but joy was missing in my life, I was just surviving and not thriving in every aspect of my life, I was not sure what was missing then which was not allowing me to relax despite having a stable job, good income, happy married life but certainly there was a deep calling from my heart and signs from Universe that I am a special Child of God; that I am meant for bigger things, bigger impact, bigger cause and a bigger mission.”
That’s where I came up with my Brand Name – ReLive;Because You Matter. My intention was anyone reading this for the first time itself would strike an immediate connection and realize they matter and this life is worth living in a much more fulfilling manner just by working on yourself, your mental strength, emotional balance and most importantly being courageous enough to be your congruent, authentic version and fall in love with yourself.
I was inspired enough to create an avenue or support system for anyone feeling Hopeless, helpless and worthless to realize their true potential and ReLive this beautiful existence of yourself called Life”.
Specialities am Dealing with:
> Relationship issues
> Marital Problems
> Parenting challenges
> Depression & Anxiety
> Couple compatibility challenges
> Stress & Anger Management
> Confidence & Courage
> Work-Life Balance
> Emotional disturbances
> Anything that disturbs your peace and happiness
How do you manage to keep going despite the challenges? What drives you?
There’s something within all of us and that is greater than any obstacle we face and mightier than our sufferings in our life.
My Passion to be the reason behind someone’s smile, peace and happiness keeps me Empowering and Inspiring to face and understand any sort of challenges I face in my day today life.
I have had sleepless nights crying to my pillow, asking help to the universe to get the wisdom to make my relationship work and deal with my loneliness in the beginning years of my adulthood and I know how it feels when you are in Love with a person but yet feel quite incompatible and disconnected. When you have a compassionate heart, yet you are being judged by your own family and friends for being authentic.
One of my core values is caring and I like sharing my expertise, experiences, knowledge and resources to support as many people in achieving relationship excellence, fostering mental strength and emotional stability.
The way I have achieved clarity in my own life and Reconnected with my partner at a deeper level by working on compatibility and leading a Thriving Life.
Every time I come across an Unhappy Individual or Couple, I am driven spontaneously to lead them through my expertise and experience and share valuable insights, step by step plan – which facilitates them to move forward in an exceedingly new and more empowered direction. My strong intention to become and build solid role models of Happy and harmonious couples eventually for the future generation to follow and believe more in relationships and commitment as a result of which we can together reduce the Divorce and Suicidal rates.
Who do you believe has been the biggest source of motivation in your daily life?
My life experiences changed as well as shaped Me the person I have become Today. Like anyone else I too have facets of emotions underlying within me – Strong yet Emotional, Sensitive yet very Matured and Sensible. Extrovert yet loves Solitude.
Every mistake that I have done, I have learnt a lesson and have only grown better, my keen to be a lifelong learner and not giving up attitude has been my biggest motivational factor.”
There are many more around as my strong pillars; my Super Supportive Understanding husband Sahil, my two adorable kids Aarush and Anaya, my Social media team mate – Jagat who is my biggest support, well-wisher, friend and guide along with my families and my friends who have been very supportive and encouraging. Without my Parents and my brothers (Chinmaya & Amitab) this journey would have been much tougher. Am blessed to have strong family support.
My client’s success stories, and my ReLive Community Members are my Biggest Strength. All of their love is the catalyst behind My Happy, Smiling and Outshining personality.
What are some of the strategies that you believe have helped you grow as a person?
More than Strategies, I would call them as Decisions I take which I would love to highlight as am very intuitive in taking any sort of decisions of life:
(1) Living in Moments – Being there 100% where I am being with anyone or any place.
(2) Being resourceful by taking 100% responsibility in everything I do and want.
(3) Working on my own self every single day and becoming the person that I want to see in others.
(4) Having a Childlike Mindset- Curiosity, Exploring and Intuitive.
(5) My Quest to be my Authentic, Courageous and Confident self.
(6) No one achieves alone- I believe in teamwork as together we always achieve more.
(7) Being open to learning from anyone and everyone. No one is perfect!
(8) Keep on improving myself in every role that I am playing (a better Mother, Wife, Coach, Daughter, Friend) every single day I ask myself – How can I be a Better & happier being?
You are always positive and motivated, what keeps you going?
My motivation comes from my Daily Morning rituals which I practice daily that helps me to set my intention of the day as well as to stay positive, happy and have a growth mindset.
My passion for my purpose to heal and help as many people keeps me motivated to master my own skill and keep learning something new every single day.
I prioritize my self-care, even if it’s just alone time. For example, I schedule my ‘ME’ time to meditate, long drive, reading books, spa, solo shopping and take intermediate breaks when I completely go off gadgets, social media, work sometimes even my loved ones.
I maintain a gratitude journal and write ten sometimes 30 people/things I am grateful for daily. I admire all my mentors and coaches and follow their work and direction that reminds me of the power and true purpose in my life.
Last but not least when I see my clients, my Children, my spouse and my Family having aha moments and I get the privilege of witnessing their breakthrough me, it’s the most powerful stimulant I am blessed with.
Please share with us, how do you motivate your clients?
My way of Coaching is all about Giving Step by Step practical guidance and feedback in helping my clients to think about and solve Relationship problems and life issues constructively by taking 100% responsibility for their Life, Happiness and relationships.
Being an Experienced Coach with more than a Decade of expertise, I provide them with the tools, guidance, support, and feedback they need to thrive in their life and explicitly Relationships.
I believe in giving my clients the Clarity & Confidence to make their own changes and find their own solutions by accessing the qualities that are already inside them rather than advising or suggesting because everyone’s journey and experience and struggle is different, how can we have one fix and quick solution fit for all.
I become the catalyst in their journey where they realize their highest potential and become courageous enough to ReLive their by choice like a Victor and no more as a Victim.
Personally, I am an emotional person however very intelligent enough to manage & regulate my emotions with maturity and sensibility. I can feel their Pain and Joy as I am someone who’s often gone down the same road that any of you is on currently and is “there to share with you on what I’ve done and what’s worked for Me”.
My Plan is to support You from Coaching and Motivation to providing Boundaries and Developing habits…all with a focus on helping You to Become a Better Version of Yourself and ultimately achieve Your highest potential. Focus is to help individuals heal, energies and become aware of their inner strengths.
My work is to empower clients to take on responsibilities for their own self-development and show confidence in their abilities to achieve their goals.
What are the business mantras you have embraced as you sought to establish your success story?
My Key Mantras:
(a) Connecting before Correcting anyone in my life
(b) Becoming the person that I want to See it in others
(c) Choosing Faith and Surrender over Faith – every obstacle has come for us to Grow.
(d) We all are our Personal Brands. We are the products so we need to make sure to get our standards right and stay intact with our brand values.
In your opinion, what are the keys to success?
I will put it straight that there is no specific or only mantra to success, there is no unique key to success, everyone has a different path, and pace towards their own journey of success.
These are couple of factors that helped me to achieve my definition of Success:
~ Being Consistent rather than seeking Perfection.
~ Having the Courage to Fail- “It’s the First Step that stops us.”
~ Curiosity to keep learning new things and evolving to be my better version every single day.
~ Choosing Self-Acceptance, Self-Love and Self-compassion before anyone or everything else.
~ Owning the Consequences of my Decisions and Taking Responsibility for my Actions.
~ Getting my Morning Right- Having a Disciplined, Fixed Daily Morning Ritual and Setting my Goals every day.
~ Working on Building a Growth, Abundance and Champion Mindset by being around Optimistic People.
~ When it comes to my Profession – My Clients come First, Business is Second and I am Third! But, when it comes to my Personal Life- I take care of myself First to remain Happy, My Relationships Second so that they help me to become Happier, and Work third so that it helps me in achieving my productivity which eventually makes me a Happiest Woman. Prioritizing myself, My Overall wellbeing (Mental, Emotional, Physical & Spiritual)
What about your journey makes it satisfying/exciting?
Changing someone’s mindset is the toughest thing I feel, and that’s what I do. What more can be a more exciting and thrilling experience!
When I see my Clients Evolved as better versions of their themselves, becoming congruent, authentic and confident to solve any sort of challenges in their life. That boosts me to serve more people.”
When I see my inbox, filled with feedback, DM’s, from those who have been inspired through my social media content, my clients’ reviews on Google, and other platforms as the 5 star rated and long testimonials through my coaching sessions/ mastery programs I get more inspired to add more value and impact as many lives as I can.
My Success lies in their Breakthroughs! Seeing their breakthrough and shifts in them gives me tremendous satisfaction and motivation for the work that I do.
Saving marriages, saving families from breaking, reducing divorce cases, helping youths from Suicidal thoughts, building Mentally strong and emotionally balanced individuals. These daily wins that make Me and life more worth living😊
I am forever grateful to God for making me the catalyst in saving people’s lives, eradicating people’s pain, people’s hurt and achieving the Identity, creating an impact and Income by adding value to people’s life.
It’s only now, I feel that It is less about my own recognition, name, fame and money I make and more about the legacy I am leaving behind by building a strong battalion of ReLive Community People.
I alone can’t save or change the whole world but if I build One Powerful SUN in every family who can illuminate the whole family, each person can change their own little world to see the compounded effect on the entire world.”
This is the constant reminder I get from the Universe that I am on the right path and am truly living the higher purpose of my life with passion.
What advice would you give couples who are struggling in their relationships?
Couples being together but not being happy together. The number of cases is more than the divorce or breakup cases in India. 😟
What if I tell you are not alone, that over 30 Lakh couples are struggling to make their Relationships Work.
You might realize that you are living together but not being happy together☹️
You Do love your partner but are not compatible with him or her.
You often feel taken for granted in your relationships😔
Maybe you feel you’ve lost that Emotional and physical connection with your partner✨
Maybe you Have been trying so many advices from family, relatives, friends, but nothing is helping you to build compatibility. 💞
No matter how much ever you try, to figure out who is being right and wrong, if you don’t know what you are doing wrong in your relationship, you will keep fighting with each other rather than fighting For each other 🙅♀️
I think that two people who decide to live together in a situation, they have an obligation to “Make the Relationship Work” for them.
What if you can get rid of your years of hurt, pain, guilt, self-sabotage without worrying about your partner.
What if I share My ultimate secret with you that has helped me to not just Survive but Thrive in My own Relationship. 👩❤️👨
What if I tell you, you would not need years or months , you can Make it Happen in just 6 weeks.
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